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Work & pressure
Why can’t I switch off after work?
Pressure, unfinished business and why your head can stay at work long after you have left.
6 min readRead the answer → OverthinkingWhy do I replay conversations in my head?
What the replay loop is trying to do — and how to stop giving it the whole evening.
7 min readRead the answer → Arguments & communicationWhy do I shut down during arguments?
Why going quiet can be a pressure response rather than not caring.
7 min readRead the answer → Stress & angerWhy do little things make me angry when I’m stressed?
Why the final tiny thing often gets blamed for a bucket that was already full.
6 min readRead the answer → Avoidance & actionWhy do I procrastinate when something matters?
Why caring about something can sometimes make starting it harder.
7 min readRead the answer → Pressure & overwhelmHow do I deal with pressure when everything piles up?
A practical way to separate what needs doing now from what is merely shouting loudest.
7 min readRead the answer →Getting wound upHow do I calm down before I lose my temper?
Practical things to do when you can feel yourself getting wound up and want to stop the next few minutes making things worse.
2 min readRead the answer →Shutting downHow do I start talking again after shutting down?
A practical way back into a conversation after you have gone quiet, blank or withdrawn during an argument.
2 min readRead the answer →CommunicationWhy does what I mean come out wrong?
Why worry, pressure or uncertainty can come out sounding angry or defensive, and how to make the point underneath easier to hear.
2 min readRead the answer →After the rowHow do I apologise properly after an argument?
A straightforward apology after an argument: own what you did, recognise the impact and avoid turning the apology into another defence.
2 min readRead the answer →After the rowHow do I repair things after an argument?
What to do after the apology: understand what happened, make one useful change and stop the same argument simply being stored for next time.
2 min readRead the answer →How these answers work
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